Stupidly Yours

So how should one react when faced with an act of utter stupidity... However stupid this thought itself may sound... Its just my struggle to get an answer that has provoked this blog... and to add fuel to it... Somebody did act foolishly today... and I was angry... not by his act... but the way I reacted...

Well this reminds me of a scene from Sharabi when the gorgeous Jaya Prada loses the "Naulakha" and our Bachchan sir tells her it was not that costly at all... naturally lying because one drop of her tear is much more "costlier" than one lac... anyway, the reason for the examples is... what I was taught from the childhood was much similar to this "stupid" scene... Laugh at people (and ofcourse yourself) but not when one actually commits an act of stupidity... Try to sweep it under the carpet and thus not taking away someone's self-respect... I kind of embodied this as it came from my father and never doubted it...

... never until I went to Singapore... one of the most turbulent times in my life... On one hand I was trying to manage my career and on other was desperately trying to hold on to my love life... and struggling at both ends... I do remember for days and days I slept merely for 3-4 hours in order to cling on to both the ships... hard that it was to be... I did forget things... I did act stupidly...

one incident that I can recall of the so-called "stupidity" was when after going to bed at 5:30 am in the morning... was awaken by my roommates at 730 in the morning... could hardly open my eyes... and caring as they were... they asked me if I had my keys of the house... I really didnt know what they were saying and could barely open my eyes... couldnt find my keys... as a nice gesture... I was given their set of keys... Well... when I woke up at around 10 I could not find my keys but luckily had my roommates keys... I locked the door with the other set and went to office... and again struggling in the office till 10 pm I got back to sweet home... sans the keys... and as soon as we reached home... It struck me... what a terrible act... because of my stupidity my roommates were suffering... they were in no way responsible for it... I felt like a hangdog... utter stupidity... I do remember almost running to a taxi and rushing to office... getting the keys and coming back... while my roomies waited at the door... They really looked magnanimous when they pardoned me for my stupidity... I felt happy that the things I was taught in my childhood were not necessarily rubbish....

The day passed but never got forgotten... When in every act of mine I was reminded of my crimes of stupidity by my roomies and ofcourse by other "friends"... I came to know about the reality... Yes I was the stupidest person they had seen... and Yes I had become a benchmark... Yes I was equivalent of Manoj Kumar for Bad films... and I used to cringe inside whenever that was reminded... but my stubbornness of putting a brave face and not explaining them to douse their ego took toll on me...
Stupidity as they say is universal... something inside me kept on telling me to highlight their foolish behavior... but no.. the false virtues that were bred in me always stopped...

so when somebody did act stupidly I just said... its okay... when somebody lost some money in his exit dues at previous company due to his stupidity I used to sympathize with him... when somebody used to visit a whore-house to forget about his love ... I just said take care in future... when somebody forgot the pizza in the microwave for days... I laughingly avoided the discussion.... and yeah... how could I highlight an act of stupid behavior when all the drunkards celebrating the new year did some things which were foolish enough to write a book of anecdotes... point to note here was the foolish acts started before even buying the bloody alcohol... bloody fool its not your girl you are flirting your chances with... I wish I could yell

but well... the lesson was learnt the hard way...I had decided to jump on somebody's act of stupidity... before he does on mine
and today... was the day... past was past... its time for new beginnings... the idiot had to be reminded...

and all I could hear myself utter was.. "Its okay... hota hai"

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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